“One heart is worth it all; one life; one family…touched by the love of Christ expressed through a caring church.”
One Heart Disability Ministry
One of the things that we never allowed our children to do was to make fun of the weak or the disabled. Calling somebody “retarded” or “crippled,” or some such other name was strictly forbidden. However, we didn’t just not let them speak ill of or make fun of those people, we taught them to show love and compassion to them.
From their earliest years, when we saw somebody who was needy, we would explain to the children that we do not know what that person goes through. That we cannot understand that person’s pain and suffering. And that we should lift those people up, not tear them down.
If you read much of what we have written, you will quickly learn that we feel that one of the most valuable parenting tools that we have at our disposal is that of discussion. This is especially true when it comes to empathy training. We have always discussed people’s hurts with our children (at appropriate ages), and even charged them with the duty of making this world a better place through their Christian love and charity.
All four of our grown children are heavily involved in ministry. Joshua (our first born) and Kara (our fourth born) are involved in ministries to homeschooling families through our family ministry and through the Academy of Arts (teaching Christian drama to youth and children). Our second and third kids are both in full time ministry to the needy. Kayla will be joining the ranks of full time missionary, training other missionaries in HIV care and prevention upon her college graduation in May. Cami is our church’s disability ministry director (One Heart Disability Ministry). She and her husband work tirelessly holding services each week for over a hundred individuals in the Fort Wayne area with cognitive disabilities.
Obviously, if our children felt that they were supposed to work full time in secular careers, we would be proud of them. We have always wanted them to do what God has called them to do. However, the fact that they are so adept at seeing others’ needs and trying to meet them brings us great joy—regardless of whether that is a full time ministry, part time ministry, or just what they do as Christian adults above and beyond their occupations.
Yes, “How do you think that makes that person feel?” is the beginning of empathy training. Teaching our children to see people’s needs with true compassion is the continuation of that empathy training.
We are not programmed to be selfless. We are not programmed to automatically think about others. We are born with a sin nature--a selfish nature. As parents, we have to make a conscious effort to get our children’s thoughts off of themselves—and onto those around them.
Many years ago, when the older children were ten through fourteen, we took a trip to Chicago. We spent a long weekend visiting museums, swimming at our motel, and, of course, talking. We had many opportunities to see those with needs and discuss these situations. Before we left that weekend, we had written a song (amateur poet, here) that described what we saw and felt that we still sing today—and that reminds us to look around us and see the hurting people—and try to find ways to help them.
“I Prayed for You Today”
I prayed for you today, though I didn't know your name,
I saw a hurting look, so I had to stop and pray.
I prayed for you today, when I saw you on the street,
Playing on your trumpet, for everyone you meet.
(Chorus) I know it doesn't seem like much, just a simple little prayer.
But I want you to realize there is a God who cares.
I know it doesn't seem like much, I wish I could do more.
But the very best thing that I can do is take you to the Lord.
I prayed for you today, when I saw you with your cane,
Your yesterdays have flown right by, and now you're old and lame.
I prayed for you today, when I saw you on your porch,
You looked so sad and lonely, so broken and forlorn.
(Chorus) I know it doesn't seem like much, just a simple little prayer.
But I want you to realize there is a God who cares.
I know it doesn't seem like much, I wish I could do more.
But the very best thing that I can do is take you to the Lord.
I prayed for you today, when I saw you with your friends,
Trying to be popular, trying to fit in.
I prayed for you today, when I saw you at the zoo,
Being a daddy all alone is difficult to do.
(Chorus) I know it doesn't seem like much, just a simple little prayer.
But I want you to realize there is a God who cares.
I know it doesn't seem like much, I wish I could do more.
But the very best thing that I can do is take you to the Lord.
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