Wednesday, January 6, 2010

day seven: use objects with special meaning to tie heart strings

  “A penny for your thoughts; a nickel for a hug; and a dime if you tell me that you love me.”






Yesterday I talked about two ways that we have gotten our children to talk through the years—“penny for your thoughts” and “talk to me” song. Out of one of these, a valuable “object lesson” developed and tied the heartstrings of my son and me in a special way.

The rest of that jingle goes on to offer not only a penny for what the person is thinking, but also a nickel for a hug and ten cents if you say “I love you.”

Sixteen cents… a meager amount of change that elicits warm feelings (and, I admit, a few tears of longing) as I write this. Our oldest son and I used to take the “penny for your thoughts” a little further when he was a little boy—and repeat the rest of the jingle to each other, complete with a big hug and special “I love you.”

As Joshua grew up, we would occasionally remind each other of how much we love to talk—and how much we care for each other by giving each other sixteen cents. When he was in high school and worked part time, I would wake up in the morning to find him off to work—with a penny, a nickel, and a dime lying on my desk. When he would open his lunch box, he would sometimes find sixteen cents taped to the inside of his pail. Not enough money to buy lunch, for sure, but enough money to know that Mom will be waiting on him ready to talk when he gets home from work.

What objects might have special meaning to you and your child? Is there a special item that you can attach unique meaning to for one or more of your children? Is there a trinket, heart, words to a song, picture of the two of you, favorite picture book, etc. that can be utilized as an object “just for the two of you”?

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